Only children lack siblings, so they usually end up having problems in socializing with others near their age. Also, they are prone to develop an inner/outer type personality. a.k.a. the hybrid mixture of intro&extrovert, which means that the only child sometimes is OMG I LOVE PPL, and sometimes the only child is GET AWAY I WANT TO BE ALONNNNEEE.
now THAT is one trait i definitely agree with. Being an only child, I am the epitome of intro/extro hybrid.. at times, i'm all about hanging out with the friends, going out, meeting new people, socializing like crazy, but like a switch of the light, in 1 quick second i can switch to " okay alone time." I've always thought that was a weird trait in my personality, that sometimes i just really like being by myself, doing something quiet, either working out, or studying, or doing some arts and crafts, or even recording covers ( although that's not exactly quiet). But hey.. you know what? Lots of people need to be alone sometimes... As much as humans love interaction with other people, the beautiful push and pull created by relationship, sometimes we just need a little off time to sort things out with ourselves. It's that age-old theme of man vs. self. In order to do our best to prevent a huge conflict between man vs. self, we all just need some portion of our week, or month, or i don't know year, if u don't need that much time to urself, to figure out what our inner self is saying to us. So i hope people understand why at times i'm quiet, and I just want to be quiet. IT's not often, and i'm not in a bad mood, and i still love everybody, it's just intro mode for a bit.
But that's the main topic i'm trying to cover here. One trait that the only child displays that really left an echo in my brain is.. the black and white sight. This doesn't mean that only children are more prone to color blindness or something, or their brains live in the 1920's (or whenever black and white was the rage). The Black and White trait means that only children are more likely to believe that things can either be.. well, black. or white. not.. gray. And it's true. Im very black and white in most of my beliefs. Especially in one particular area.
L'amour.
In matters of love and romance, i take on this super black/white ideal. I love hard, I hate hard (not really, i don't really hate hard, but i mean I fall out of love hard). When I love someone, I give them my heart and soul, I let down my walls, I give them all I can give. I throw my trust at them, I see nothing but them, I think about no one romantically but them. My world suddenly is concentrated on that one person. When I fall out of love, I put up that wall, I vacuum my trust, romanticism, love, all back within those walls. I'm not the kind to "kind of" love someone. I'm very either, u love, or u don't. I don't take maybes. Love is.. too concrete for me. not that it is a concrete.. subject, because well it isn't.. it's abstract. but what i mean is Love is.. monumental, and important, and very.. established. So u either have it, or u don't. period. I don't take gray area possibilities in the topic of love. But, sometimes I wonder if this black/white trait in my personality is what's screwing me over. I mean, not now, because i'm very happy right now. What i'm trying to say is.. maybe.. this.. black/white view of love is what's keeping me so quixotic all this time. Because I love extremely hard, pouring out every bit of romance i have contained within. I'm young now, quixotism is still allowed.. but when i'm older, and supposedly more mature, more experienced with life, would it still be wise to be so lovedrunk? Probably not. I often catching myself thinking about this aspect of the future, and I know i've said before, that I should just concentrate on the present, because it's already a handful. and yet, when i get time to relax (seldom) I can feel my mind wandering about the future, because.. well, I want a future with him. feel no pressure though, i won't mind if it doesn't turn out that way. well i will mind. but. i mean, not .. forever and with a deathly grudge.
hm... but for now, i'll just. revel in my lovesick happiness and not worry myself with proponents of the future. but it was very cool to learn that the black and white trait is actually associated with the fact that im an only child. seems these days there's a scientific explanation for everything. not sure that's good, but. that's.. the world we live in.
now, an anticlimactic switch haha.
To all those high school seniors, who are becoming 1st years in college. I am going to inform you of the wonderful world of " OPTIONS" in college.
Today, I will cover the option of. HOMEWORK.
If there is one thing, that gets on my nerves about what comes with college, this has to be at the top of my list (short list, because well college really doesn't get on my nerves).
so, in college, ur professors are not.. the nice trainers that you have in your local gym that tell you " YOU DO THIS. YOU GET FIT. WSUP, WHATS GOOD"
no.
they are the passive aggressive mean girls in your high school that tell you " kay, so like.. u don't have to do this stupid dare. but if you do.. like. omg, that's like. totally cool. but i'm like so not forcing you. yeah!"
what i mean is. they do this thing, where they make homework sound.. like.. it's. just a daily tiny choice. like, either using the anti-cavity toothpaste... or the whitening toothpaste. It's not.. really like that though.
You're going to walk into lecture ( that is if you choose to go, that's another option i will talk about next time), and by the end, they will tell you: " I have posted an assignment that is completely optional. Do it if you wish."
and you're thinking, do it if i wish? wuh? oh psh, that probably means it's trivial. ha, i don't need to do it. that's so nice of my professor! he/she gave me the option.
no.
NO.
that. is the WRRRONNNNGGG choice.
see this OPTIONAL homework.. is like. the hidden steps toward heaven. u miss these steps, ur on a first class ticket to bad grades land. ( unless ur one of those people that dont need to study and end up with straight A's. and if so, oh my god i bow down to you please give me a portion of ur brain).
this homework, basically is. " yeah you dont HAVE to do it. but if you want a decent grade, you better start on it and u better pwn it."
sigh.
good stuff huh
but. i'm not saying that professors are doing this on purpose to torture you or something. nah, they're.. actually very nice people. And though they don't really care if you succeed or fail, they usually want their class average to look at least a little bit appealing, so they don't get a total " I HATE THIS PROF" on ratemyprof. Professors are caring, and they give you the option of this homework because this homework will help you to succeed. ( unless it's ur english homework, well then that's not optional. u either do it, or u well, aren't really.. taking the tests, and thats what ur grade is mainly based on). So if you get an optional homework assignment, go home. thank your prof silently in ur heart, and actually do the homework. or try. i know it's optional, but it's assigned for a reason.
that's all for now .
comment, discuss
yeah, all that stuff haha
